You Can Notice A Trigger Without Letting It Drop Your Vibration

Someone else’s anger can feel like it jumps into your body in an instant, and if you’re not careful, your whole day starts orbiting their mood. We dig into a listener question that hits a nerve for a lot of empathic people and “feelers”: when it seems like others control your emotions, what’s actually happening inside your awareness, your nervous system, and your boundaries?

We walk through how we’ve learned to tell the difference between our own emotions and the emotional energy we pick up from the people around us. One of our favorite real-world examples is the sudden wave of anger at a red light when nothing in your life is wrong. That kind of surprise shift is a clue, and we break down how to pause, check your internal story, and figure out what belongs to you. We also talk about why “everybody can feel” and how this is less about a special gift and more about training your attention.

From there we get practical: we share the questions we ask in real time to stay accountable without turning it into self blame. Why did this trigger me? Is there a past experience tied to this feeling? Only then do we ask, is this mine or am I absorbing someone else’s frequency? We also discuss why it’s easy to use “not mine” as an escape hatch, and how taking responsibility is what actually raises your vibration and brings your power back.

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So here is the topic of the day. Are you ready?

SPEAKER_00 2:51

I'm ready.

SPEAKER_01 2:52

So I find myself talking to people about how letting other people control your emotions gives them control over you and how that lowers your vibration.

Listener Question About Emotional Control

SPEAKER_00 3:06

And so juicy.

SPEAKER_01 3:08

It is a pretty that's a pretty heavy one. Um and and you know, like we were talking pre-podcast about, and I and my thing about that is one probably different from yours, and mine is about understanding that boundaries go in all directions and on every topic. And what you'll f what I've always found is a lot of people, if they have a hard time with uh boundaries, they have a hard time specifically with emotional boundaries a lot more. Um, and what I mean by that is they'll have a tendency to, especially if they're undiagnosed, um uh feelers, so to speak, they're gonna feel other people's emotions, and so that will affect their reality and their emotions as well.

SPEAKER_00 3:59

Everybody is feelers.

SPEAKER_01 4:02

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 4:03

Uh some people are just more consciously aware of the feelers. I think society likes to call it empath.

SPEAKER_01 4:11

Yep, empathic.

SPEAKER_00 4:12

Everybody has the ability to feel.

SPEAKER_01 4:13

I heard somebody called something the other day too. Um, what was that? Clear something. Anyway. Anyway, continue on, sorry.

SPEAKER_00 4:23

Uh just to clarify that, misnomer. Everybody is feelers. The key to that is that some people don't choose to hear or listen to the feelings. Okay. They choose to ignore them. Um, but everybody can feel some of us have become more attuned to feeling not only our own energy, but other people's. And uh so that's not an unrealistic gift or some special power that some of us have. It's just that some of us cultivated it and some of us ignore it, but when you sit with it you have the ability to feel yourself, then you have the ability to feel others.

SPEAKER_01 5:21

Yeah. I remember in the in when you and I first got together, you and I had lots of discussions about uh what we do with other people's energetic vibrations and emotional vibrations and being an empath that you are and how that affects your reality. And and I think over the years we you kind of developed a very good practice of understanding that you don't have to accept that into your reality to allow it to vibr lower your vibration.

SPEAKER_00 5:48

Yeah, I mean, it's like any other thing that you're learning about your intuition and your air quote gifts.

SPEAKER_02 5:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:56

You've got to figure out what works for you, you've gotta figure out how to work with the thing, and that the thing is the feelings.

SPEAKER_02 6:08

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 6:08

And if this is gonna be a 30-minute thing, then we can't go too deep in it. But I'll try to give just like a synopsis. Yeah. You know, for me, uh in the beginning, knowing that I could feel my stuff and other people's stuff, I had to really go through a training process of being able to differentiate the difference. Because in the beginning, I was confusing other people's stuff for my own. Yep. And I couldn't figure out why. For example, one of the common examples that I would use is going out to start my day, being perfectly fine, feeling okay emotionally, and I get in the car, I'm at a red light, and all of a sudden I'm mad for no reason. Nothing has happened, nothing was awry, traffic wasn't incredibly stupid. There was no reason for me to have this. Was kind of the pivotal moment for me of where I said, This is not mine.

SPEAKER_01 7:18

I think you're uh what you're describing here is great, by the way, because it's a way you identified the differences. Right.

SPEAKER_00 7:24

I just kind of I kind of came to that place where prior to that, all the emotions kind of got mixed up in the same bowl. And I wasn't identifying what was mine out of that bowl and what was somebody else's. Right. Um, I knew that I could feel all the energy emotions of the world, and I knew that was a very noisy world. But this first time I remember my day was going great, the kids had behaved appropriately, the hair did good, I felt really good when I left the house. There wasn't nothing wonky, no, it was a good day. Uh get in the car, get the kids dropped off, headed to work, and I pull up to a red light, and within seconds, I'm I'm I'm mad. I have this anger about me. And I, for whatever reason, in that moment in time,

Everyone Feels Energy Not Just Empaths

SPEAKER_00 8:20

I stopped and I said, wait a minute. I evaluated my morning, and I was like, there is absolutely no reason why I should be this angry or this frustrated. It was just, it wasn't even frustration, it was the next level of anger at this point. Yeah. It's a red light, minimal traffic. The morning went well, and I'm evaluating my whole day already that's transpired, and I can find no rational, valid reason why I have this much anger floating through my body and sitting there doing that, waiting for the red light, which felt at this point, it felt like it took hours for the red light to turn. And this gentleman is sitting in the car, and quite obviously he's he's angry. He's angry, he's conversating, and I assumed on the phone, his hands are flailing about, he's hitting his steering wheel, he very obviously visually is showing angry body language, and for whatever reason, I was I I came to that place of oh my god, this is not even my emotion that I'm feeling. And so I logged that frequency of um this is somebody else's stuff that I am picking up on.

SPEAKER_02 10:02

Right.

SPEAKER_00 10:02

And so then from there, I started a journey of being able to more precisely identify what is mine and what is not mine, right? And going into a uh, I guess a practice, so to speak, in my own self of figuring out, okay, when it's not mine and I'm feeling it, what do I do with it then? Right. How do I process it? How do I eliminate it? How do I whatever? And one of the good suggestions that you had um was creating uh the tubes, external tubes, so to speak, off of my aura visually, yeah. So that you could see when they filled up with junk that wasn't mine and remind me to clear the tubes.

SPEAKER_01 10:54

Yeah, clear your tubes.

SPEAKER_00 10:56

Uh so that's what the practice began as. Yes. Now, obviously, this many years into it, I can very quickly identify whether it's mine or whether it's not. Right. Process it floated on to the universe. But I had to practice it.

SPEAKER_01 11:13

Well, I think what you're identifying perfectly is that that that surprise vibrational energetic change when you do are allowing somebody else's emotions into your world, which is I think that's what she's kind of talking about too in the comic.

SPEAKER_03 11:26

Right.

SPEAKER_01 11:26

And I think that is the great time. And and you have pointed out to me over the years, and you've even asked me how do I not allow those things to bother me.

SPEAKER_00 11:36

But they even still I you know I still have times, but you have times where it does bother you, and I have to remind you just the same as you have to remind me to clean your tubes or to brush it off. Because I would say that in yours and my journey, you came to me as almost a non-feeler. You would you ignored it.

SPEAKER_02 12:01

I still ignore a lot of it.

SPEAKER_00 12:02

And you and you right, and you brush a lot of it off and are not allowing yourself quite to be as in tune to it as I am. And uh, and so that's kind of how I define you is you deal with it differently because you don't completely embody the emotion or that the uh 100%.

SPEAKER_01 12:26

That's where a lot of people get confused because they feel like that if they're not loving, they shouldn't accept this emotional frequency from somebody else, or it's because it's unkind or it's unempathetic, or that kind of stuff. And it's a it's a human trap because

Red Light Anger Story And Identification

SPEAKER_01 12:45

you have to learn, like I have many over the years, is like you identified me as a mallard, and the reason why is yeah, I I can be very empathetic and I can be very caring and understanding, but I choose to raise my vibration above that level because when you meet somebody at that same energy that and it that's already at a negative, you know, in a in a lower vibrational place, now you're lowering your vibration. And so I myself don't do it that way. I will get caught off guard just like anybody else, most of them, but the majority of the time I can be caring and loving and understanding and and be empathetic, sympathetic, but when it comes to accepting their lower vibration, I always just bring myself above it. I look my I basically tell myself, or in you know, my subconscious mind will say, What can I do to help these people with a higher vibration? You know, and that's where I how I handle that scenario.

SPEAKER_00 13:45

Right. But I think this person is actually looking for some steps prior to that. Agreed. Not from the perspective of, okay, we've figured it out, we've been dealing with it for years, we have our own individual routines that we go through to handle. Right. I think they're a little bit before that. Yeah. And so I think the conversation needs to be uh uh a change in perspective, they're not allowing someone to control their emotions.

SPEAKER_01 14:19

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 14:20

They're and and take their power. What they're doing is they're having an emotional response to a situation that's going on that needs to be brought back to the awareness that if I'm having an emotion about a person, place, or thing, situation, event, it is my responsibility to evaluate why that's triggering this uncomfortable emotion.

SPEAKER_01 14:47

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 14:49

And what do I want to do about it? I think that's the that's the first step.

SPEAKER_01 14:54

I agree, and identifying the trigger that you can that will make it identifiable. I agree.

SPEAKER_00 14:58

And then the second step is is it is if there's nothing that you find that is triggering for you, is it mine?

SPEAKER_02 15:10

Right, agreed.

SPEAKER_00 15:11

Is it or is it that I'm picking up on their emotion? But be careful with that because that can be a trip-up point. If you constantly are saying, Oh, this is not my emotion, then you're giving that monkey mind a place of non-accountability. Yeah, totally, and you won't heal and you won't expand and grow from it because you're still using some bullshit excuse to not allow yourself to have emotions, yep. Be accountable for an emotion.

SPEAKER_01 15:44

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 15:45

So you've got they definitely have different frequencies when you come to that place of learning how to identify them. But the trip up point is that anger of somebody else and anger of yourself have a finite feeling of difference. Well, that's any emotion. But right. It is not just anger, right.

SPEAKER_01 16:11

I don't I know we're using anger as an example, but this is with any emotion that, by the way, that Dr. Jenny's talking about.

SPEAKER_00 16:17

That's right. And until you have practiced finding that frequency different difference, your monkey mind can run with it. Take you into a place of not being accountable when it is your garbage that needs to be. You can all you can always kick back to, oh, you know what, this is not my emotion. I give it back to whoever it belongs to. And then what happens is it'll get quiet for a little bit, but then it it resurfaces every time you get triggered. Right. So you want to ask yourself some questions of accountability first. Okay, why am I feeling this emotion? Go back through your history, maybe, and find out was there an event somewhere in my past that I'm hanging on to that created this similar feeling or this similar emotion, and that's why it triggered me. Because no one has the ability to do anything to you, no one has the ability to take anything from you unless you're not being accountable for your own garbage, and that's where the power is changed or lost, or the feeling of the power being given away, or somebody else having the power over you, is that you're not being accountable for your own emotions and your own feelings inside of an event or something.

SPEAKER_01 17:54

You know, I think one of the things that you do is you as soon as you have that emotion, you ask you literally will just ask yourself, is that mine?

SPEAKER_00 18:01

Right.

SPEAKER_01 18:01

Yeah, because I've s I hear you do that all the time now.

SPEAKER_00 18:04

Right.

SPEAKER_01 18:04

And that's in making it okay to when you identify that you know what that is not mine.

SPEAKER_00 18:09

Right.

SPEAKER_01 18:09

Or making it okay that it is mine.

SPEAKER_00 18:11

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:12

And when you like because part of the comment is is I see this in my world a lot lately. Um, it may not be directly that this person is experiencing it, but she sees it in her reality.

SPEAKER_03 18:23

Right.

SPEAKER_01 18:23

And so like other people are doing it as well.

SPEAKER_03 18:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:26

And I think one of the things that really helped a lot for me growing up when I was growing up and going through all this uh journey of my life and the emotions and stuff, especially with some of the traumas and stuff I went through as a younger age. I learned to say, you know what, I'll have the emotion, I'll have the uh cause of the emotion, but I don't have to lower my vibration to this.

SPEAKER_00 18:52

Right.

SPEAKER_01 18:53

I can accept it, I identify it, I I, you know, I I own it.

SPEAKER_00 18:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 18:58

Especially allow it to change me.

SPEAKER_00 19:01

You own it if it's yours.

SPEAKER_01 19:02

Right.

SPEAKER_00 19:03

If it's not yours, and you're feeling the emotion of others around you, then you don't claim it.

SPEAKER_03 19:11

Right.

SPEAKER_00 19:12

Uh you you know, you figure out what works for you. Either you lovingly give it back to them and give yourself permission not to completely embrace it and own it. Yeah. You just recognize it. Um and you don't have to know the why. Why can I feel other people's crap right now? You don't have to know the why. That'll be revealed to you as you learn how to um I I guess control it, so to speak. Yeah. Uh, because there's a reason. There's a reason you can feel it if you're feeling it.

SPEAKER_01 19:45

But uh of course there's falls into that fight or flight area.

SPEAKER_00 19:52

There of course, that's why I say everybody can do it, and everybody does it whether they realize they do it or not, because it's a it's a sense, like your senses, smelling, seeing.

SPEAKER_01 20:06

What what did you what what was that first sense? Smeething. Is that like I don't know, smiling and teething at the same time?

SPEAKER_00 20:12

No, it's smelling and seeing combined together. You're smeathing.

SPEAKER_01 20:16

We're smeathing. We're going to go out and smeathe partners.

SPEAKER_00 20:22

Your smeathability.

SPEAKER_01 20:23

That's this that's the eighth sense.

SPEAKER_00 20:25

The the uh well, that's where I was going with it. You know, you've got the the sixth sense, but then you've also got an additional sense of feeling each other's emotions. That's why you walk into a room and you say, Oh, I'm not going over in that corner.

SPEAKER_01 20:42

That's the that's the uh flight.

SPEAKER_00 20:46

And you say, Oh, this corner feels much better. That's you sensing the emotional atmosphere of where you're at. You

Tools To Release What Is Not Yours

SPEAKER_00 20:55

go into the office and you can tell if you just walked in on a post-argument or a post-lower vibrational interaction, yeah. Whether you consciously are aware of it or not, you can tell the energy residual that's there. You do it all the time. People just don't realize they do it. That's why I say this is not some hidden special gift. It's just that some people acknowledge it and are more aware of it, and some people absorb it, and some people are not aware of it and ignore it.

SPEAKER_02 21:30

Yeah, I agree.

SPEAKER_00 21:32

And what I'm trying to say is you don't even have to absorb it.

SPEAKER_02 21:35

Right.

SPEAKER_00 21:36

You you can begin to teach yourself the frequency difference of okay, is this mine? Am I being triggered because I had some sort of event that created this emotion, and this is reminding me of that, and I'm correlating it to the um, like for example, if you You have embarrassment and you you ask yourself, Is am I embarrassed or somebody else? Then you come to the realization that, okay, I'm embarrassed. Then when you ask yourself, okay, why did this moment trigger me? It may be that in your childhood you had a uh public speaking where you had to get up in the class, present your work that you did, and some of the kids made fun of you and that embarrassed you.

SPEAKER_03 22:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:32

And this gave up the same type of red flag because it triggered that memory, and the body automatically says, safety alert, this is not a safe situation. It's gonna bring about this same emotion, get out, get out, get out. Yeah, in that fight or flight mechanism.

SPEAKER_01 22:49

Kicks in, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:50

We are gonna go much deeper on this because then it it uh eventually on on another platform, this is a very beefy topic because then what happens is you realize that you've got all this shit in your fight or flight bucket that doesn't belong there.

SPEAKER_01 23:07

Yeah, right.

SPEAKER_00 23:09

So I think that when essentially what I want to recap for this individual who has put the question out there is remembering no one is doing anything to you, you are constantly in control, and your awareness is what gives you back the control. And you when you feel an emotion coming on inside your own body, you need to stop and ask yourself, why am I feeling this emotion in this situation? Is it mine? And if it is, is it coming about because it triggered a past experience that gave me this same uncomfortable feeling? And the body's naturally saying, Oh, this has the characteristics of potentially recreating that, and I'm trying to keep you safe from feeling that. Or if it's not yours, figuring out what tools help you give it back to the person that it is, or give it to the universe to process or whatever, um, is the way to work that and right.

SPEAKER_01 24:21

No, I you know what I 100% agree with you, and I think what what I also want to do the comment or com commenter, comment, comment person, whoever's left the comment, to understand that if you're seeing this in your reality, your reality is trying to show you something.

SPEAKER_00 24:41

It's trying to tell you that it's time for you to work with this and nurture it and cultivate it.

SPEAKER_01 24:47

And you and I think one another thing that they need to remember is that you don't have to accept the vibrational change unless it's yours.

SPEAKER_00 24:57

That's right. That's why I say we are the ones that give our life meaning by the emotion that we tie to every single situation, circumstance, and event. Right. Otherwise, life has no meaning literally, because we're the ones giving it the meaning the emotion that we choose to tie to it.

SPEAKER_02 25:19

Right.

SPEAKER_00 25:19

Whether it be uh happy, mad, sad, frustrated, whatever, we're the ones choosing that emotion inside of us and and whether we tie it to this situation, circumstance, or event. Otherwise, life has no meaning, literally. If some stranger walks by and doesn't speak to you while you're sitting on a park bench and they just cross your path and they mean nothing to you, they don't say anything disruptive, they don't interact, then you don't give it any emotional meaning to it. It just isn't it it is what it is.

SPEAKER_02 25:55

I agree.

SPEAKER_00 25:55

That's the way life is, and until we give it that perceived emotional meaning is when it becomes either something that is mirroring to you that's ready to be looked at and addressed, or it's something to recognize that um is good or yucky so you don't repeat it, or something to enjoy, or whatever. We're the ones giving life meaning through our emotional guidance system every single second of every single day.

SPEAKER_02 26:33

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:34

So you're choosing to have an emotional response, and you get to choose what kind of emotional response you have in that, and when you become when you embrace that and you come to the place of acknowledging that it's not happening to you, you're the one in control of that, then

Accountability First Then Ask Is It Mine

SPEAKER_00 26:55

your power will naturally come back to you because you'll go through each situation or circumstance or interaction with a human knowing I get to choose how this emotionally affects me because I get to choose my emotion within it. That person doesn't get to make me feel any kind of way if I don't want to.

SPEAKER_01 27:18

Well, you know, that's a a thing in human nature that we do, especially when it comes to emotion and empathy of others. We have a we have a tendency to find a common ground with that same emotional response that they're having. And like you just said, it's a there could have been something happened in the past that's bringing up a subconscious thought, which is making you have a bias to this emotional energetic frequency.

SPEAKER_00 27:42

You use that word a lot and it always confuses me. I don't know what that means.

SPEAKER_01 27:45

Uh it it basically a bias means that it's something that your body is gonna or your thought process is gonna actually automatically think to. And so you have to bring it to your identity like you just talked about, or into your uh identifying it as how you did, and describe it is how you remove the bias, and that's where your frequency gets lowered. So if you go into a conversation or you see a conversation between two people that is creating a lower vibrational state, it's because you are subconsciously biased to that emotion because it's bringing up a belief system in your background that's going to make you mimic the same result, which lowers your vibration. You're accepting their frequency. And that's what I that's what you said. I just kind of worded it a little bit differently.

SPEAKER_00 28:35

And so I don't I don't know what that word is. And so when it's hard for me to understand that word, you're relating yeah, I well, I'm not buying anything. It's it's biased. I feel like it's creating confusion, so maybe say it differently because I'm confused. Bias, not bias. How do I always have trouble keeping that apart?

SPEAKER_01 28:58

Subconscious mind being lazy. That's why I'm talking about that is it, you know, like electricity go finds the quickest point to ground, water will find the quickest way to go downhill, you know, and your subconscious mind will find the quickest way to find commonality with this person without you thinking it's a subconscious thought. That's a bias.

SPEAKER_00 29:20

Oh, so what you're saying is if there's some sort of negative feeling or emotion that you're experiencing, it's because the person in front of you is feeling that and you've lowered your vibration to match theirs to relate to the situation.

SPEAKER_01 29:40

No, I'm saying it's just the opposite. If it's not your emotion, you go into a conversation that somebody is bringing to you that and suddenly you're allowing them to lower your vibration, then that is because you have found a way to find a common ground with that person in that emotion that you have had based from a previous experience or belief.

SPEAKER_00 29:59

Okay, well, we're gonna agree disagree because I don't I you don't allow someone to lower your vibration. That's what I mean. I know you don't.

SPEAKER_01 30:08

I'm talking about you're talking about everybody.

SPEAKER_00 30:10

No, I'm saying the mechanism doesn't work that way.

SPEAKER_01 30:14

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 30:14

You're not allowing anybody to do that. You're making a choice to do that yourself. You're making a choice to lower your vibration to meet the situation. The the coming to the awareness that you're doing that, not that they're doing it to you, right? Is the place of awareness where you want to be because the mentality is.

SPEAKER_01 30:38

You just explained what I just said. I'm not saying that they're doing that to them. I'm saying that they are doing it to themselves because they're finding a common belief in there with that emotional vibrational change.

SPEAKER_00 30:48

That's kind of not what you said, but okay.

SPEAKER_01 30:50

Yeah, no, that's your okay.

SPEAKER_00 30:53

You said that you're allowing them to lower your vibration, but I don't want to give the misinterpretation that they have the control to do things to you that you don't want done to you. I don't want to give that misrepresentation.

SPEAKER_01 31:10

Okay, I I I'll have to review that and see that because I don't that's not how I try to put it off. But the the what I'm t what I exactly what I'm saying is is if somebody comes into the room and you're not experiencing that emotion and you are talking to this person with this emotion or with this vibrational frequency that's lower than where you currently are, and then you engage with this person, and then it lowers your frequency, it's because you have found a way through your your subconscious mind, through your belief systems and your experience and your life patterns, has found a way to find common ground with that person in that emotional lower frequency, which in turn will lower your frequency.

unknown 31:53

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 31:56

I I don't I I I don't know. I just don't want to give the impression that that's outside of that person's control.

SPEAKER_01 32:04

No, I agree.

SPEAKER_00 32:05

They're allowing their frequency to lower by by their own choice and their own decision, even if it is subconscious and they're not aware that they're doing it. Or even like you're the person that's experiencing the emotion is not doing something to them. That's the that's the big thing that I want to make sure is very crystal clear. Because I don't want them to get into a monkey situation where they can blame or put off that, oh, this person is doing this to me.

Choosing Meaning And Raising Your Vibration

SPEAKER_00 32:40

I am not accountable and have no responsibility, I'm the victim.

SPEAKER_01 32:46

I agree. That's what I said earlier, is you gotta bring it to your reality because people that are that go into that situation are not saying that they're allowing this person to control them. They're just not identifying that they have the authority to not allow that to happen.

SPEAKER_00 33:00

Right.

SPEAKER_01 33:00

Like you said earlier. That's what I that's uh I'm just telling you that in a different way.

SPEAKER_00 33:04

It's a meaty topic. I agree. We can dive much deeper into it. I think awareness again is the number one step, realizing that you always have had the control. You always you're not giving anybody any control, and they're they do not have the ability to make you feel some emotion. It is your perspective, it is your beliefs about the situation that's going on. And those would be the first two things that I would do is number one, become aware that you have an emotional change. Number two, ask the question, why did this trigger this emotion for me?

SPEAKER_02 33:46

Right.

SPEAKER_00 33:47

And number three, is it my emotion because I've found some historical trigger point, or is it that I am uh feeling somebody else's emotion, and what do I do with that? But be very careful with number three because you don't want to give yourself a place of distracting you from being fully accountable for things because people do not do things to us, right?

SPEAKER_02 34:16

I agree.

SPEAKER_00 34:17

Life doesn't do things to us.

SPEAKER_01 34:19

Yes, I agree. I totally agree. But anyway, hey, I hope that answered your question out there. Thank you for the comment, by the way. And anybody that wants us to talk about something, please leave us a comment. And we if if it didn't answer your question, leave us another comment.

SPEAKER_03 34:33

Absolutely. We love it.

SPEAKER_01 34:35

Or if you can, if you'd like to. We uh Jenny and I have start now started a QA, uh, open forum conversation um through through a Zoom meeting. So we'll we'll actually limit the amount of people in there.

SPEAKER_00 34:48

Yeah. It's a live event.

SPEAKER_01 34:50

It's a live event, and uh you'll be able to get tickets through um Eventbrite. And uh those will those will be open to the public tomorrow to buy.

SPEAKER_00 34:59

Is that the only place, or can you get them on the website?

SPEAKER_01 35:01

Uh, you get them on our website, but I've got to change that one, so I wasn't gonna plug that. But uh I have to fix it. Uh so tomorrow.

SPEAKER_00 35:08

What what we do is is we essentially will take this topic, we'll dive deeper into it. And if there's people that want to come forward and us work on their particular situation live so that we they can get the uh one-on-one uh experience, but then everybody else can learn from them. We love that even more. Yeah, I agree. Um, because what I'll do too energetically is I'll be providing uh some remote clearing to help clear some of the beliefs and some of the person's garbage out of the way.

SPEAKER_01 35:47

Yeah, I can do a lot of it though they're or reading through the camera as well.

SPEAKER_00 35:50

And those clearings that I do, um anybody when they listen to the um information that's being shared, and even the repeat or the recorded, that still is an energy that's active. And all you have to do is just say to yourself or whatever, yes, I want to participate in the clearing of of anything that is um specific to me for my highest and best good. And then the clearing will take place for whoever wants to participate.

SPEAKER_01 36:30

Yes, totally.

SPEAKER_00 36:31

And it just clears the garbage.

SPEAKER_01 36:33

We're gonna start doing that next Wednesday the 20th. Um be paying attention on Event Bright, and uh there'll be a link

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SPEAKER_01 36:40

that I will put on here or let's see here. You'll have to get them on the website because I don't have the link yet. And you're gonna upload this one today or when are you gonna upload this? Thursday?

SPEAKER_00 36:51

Uh this one will probably go up Thursday.

SPEAKER_01 36:53

Okay, this will go up Thursday.

SPEAKER_00 36:54

So that'll go up today.

SPEAKER_01 36:56

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 36:57

Because I was out of pocket yesterday. And so this one I'll put in the queue to go up on Thursday. So you should have the link by then.

SPEAKER_01 37:04

Okay, yeah, I'll have the I'll I'll do the link in the morning. Um, okay. And so the 20th, and we'll probably do it about seven p.m. uh central time right now.

SPEAKER_03 37:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 37:13

And then uh once we get back to Florida, we'll uh probably move that into a different time zone because we have people overseas that are wanting to join us. And when you live in Australia, seven o'clock in the morning here is about three o'clock in the morning there. Or seven o'clock in the evening here is three o'clock in the morning there. Right. So anyway, so if you like to to uh join us, then just pay attention to the links on the bottom of this podcast on all of the stations. Yeah. And uh those tickets will be uh through Eventbrite tomorrow.

SPEAKER_00 37:44

Perfect.

SPEAKER_01 37:44

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SPEAKER_00 38:29

Right.

SPEAKER_01 38:30

And so I can actually Jenny or I, one of the two, will answer your questions.

SPEAKER_00 38:35

Yeah, that's the point of AI is that you know there's only two of us trying to navigate all these different frying pan modalities. And sometimes it's nice to have a little bit of help. Yeah. And so this is a way that we can um capture

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SPEAKER_00 38:55

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SPEAKER_01 39:56

Oh, yeah, the software isn't that free.

SPEAKER_00 39:58

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SPEAKER_01 40:06

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SPEAKER_00 40:11

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SPEAKER_01 40:26

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 40:26

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SPEAKER_01 40:29

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SPEAKER_00 40:36

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