The Spiritual Grind
Dr. Jenni PhD,RN,CHLC,CH and medium and Rev. James ORD, MhsB have spent countless years studying and practicing many modalities within the "Spiritual" domain. Dr. Jenni has dedicated her life to helping others by attending countless schools and developing each of her practices and strategies. Rev. James has studied many modalities and Native American practices and they have Both decided to open their library of knowledge to share this information with everyone in a down to earth style, with hope to assist in making your journey easier and more abundant.
The Spiritual Grind
How Good Can It Be If You Allow It?
Have you ever wondered what might happen if you simply followed the breadcrumbs of opportunity that appear in your life? This episode explores our journey of relocating our Power of Positive Thought Workshop to a new venue, revealing powerful spiritual lessons about trust, change, and allowing good things to flow into your life.
When faced with shifting energies at our original workshop location, we could have pushed through with our plans out of fear or obligation. Instead, we followed the spiritual breadcrumbs that led us to Greenhouse Yoga – a space with higher vibrational energy, more capacity, and run by kindred spirits who resonate with our mission. This seemingly small change exemplifies a profound spiritual principle: when you stop resisting what is and follow divine guidance, you often discover that the universe had something far better in store.
"How good can it be?" becomes the central question we invite you to ask yourself when facing changes or challenges. Are you allowing the full measure of goodness into your life, or are unconscious feelings of unworthiness creating resistance? We break down a practical three-step process for changing limiting habits: developing awareness, actively changing patterns, and allowing integration time. We also discuss the importance of honoring where you are in your journey, sometimes using "permission slips" as transitional tools rather than trying to leap too far at once.
The spiritual path isn't about perfection but progress – following one breadcrumb at a time without worrying about the entire journey. When you trust this process, bridges that are meant to remain in your life will mend themselves through growth, while connections that no longer serve your highest good naturally fall away. Ready to discover how good your life can be? Visit our website at www.themerccenters.org to learn more about our workshops and offerings.
Good morning everybody. Welcome back to the Spirits Will Grind. We are here this morning with our cat between us, so she's decided to crawl up in the middle of everything today.
Speaker 1:Yeah, apparently we need a little bit of help from the production manager. Oh, is that?
Speaker 2:what she is the production manager, apparently. Wow, that's a strong promotion.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:For somebody that doesn't speak any English at all. Matter of fact, I think her vocabulary is a little limited. I think she knows candy bars and ouch that hurt.
Speaker 1:I think she knows full on English. I just think she chooses not to let us know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she probably does.
Speaker 1:She's like I need to observe shit around here because shit's going wonky, so she's laid right here in between the two of us on the table.
Speaker 2:Well, now she's engaged, because the other one just walked under the table.
Speaker 1:Yeah, see that I'm going to ignore it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I choose to as well, but anyway. So good morning beautiful.
Speaker 1:Good morning.
Speaker 2:Hey, we're glad everybody's here listening to us and we have a pretty good topic today. We do.
Speaker 1:We do. Ooh do tell it's kind of based around yesterday's actions. Do tell.
Speaker 2:So I'm going to prelude the topic with the story of how it can be.
Speaker 1:How it can be.
Speaker 2:And how it can be really good or it can be really bad, how good it can be and how, if we allow it to be and follow the next step without worrying about others and their opinions yeah, without resistance, without resistance. That's a good way to put it. So, like the story is pretty simple, is we're going to change the venue of our workshop?
Speaker 1:Yeah, power of Positive Thought Workshop here in Daytona Beach, florida.
Speaker 2:Yes, and it's going to be at Greenhouse Yoga now.
Speaker 1:Greenhouse Yoga.
Speaker 2:We'll put the address in the description below, but Miss Andrea is the owner of Greenhouse Yoga. That's not open yet. It opens October 1st, I believe, but she's going to go ahead and start classes pretty soon. Check it out if you want yoga and you're in the Daytona Beach area, go to the Greenhouse Yoga. And she went and got her yoga training in India. Yeah, that's very awesome. She has such a beautiful energy. Yes, she does, and she went and got her yoga training in India.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's very awesome. She has such a beautiful energy.
Speaker 2:Yes, she does.
Speaker 1:The place has really really high vibrational energy frequency Good place.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it really is, and that's where we're going to move the workshop to. They've got a nice big building and what's really cool if you get hungry.
Speaker 1:there's a pizza place right below it. Yeah, for sure, we ate there, and it was pretty good pizza. It was really good, they have a nice fat menu.
Speaker 2:It's called Manny's Pizza.
Speaker 1:They've got pizza, pasta, salad.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they have a big menu to be a pizza place, all the norm. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Would you say it's like Chicago style or New York style?
Speaker 2:What is it called? It's definitely more of a New York style than it is a Chicago style.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It's good, it's good pizza.
Speaker 1:It is. I enjoyed mine. I had a veggie pizza.
Speaker 2:So here's the story we have been working with the business that we originally were going to do the workshop with, and, you know, promises were made and things were done and we held up our end of the bargain and got everything going. And then we go to check in with the house and nothing had been done. And so we were I was at a human, frustrated level, but the the real thing is, the spirit was leading us down a road, and I'll explain that, because the how good it can be was based upon a human response that I had, and I realized that if I just followed the next spiritual journey, it's going to work out the way it's supposed to. But the human frustration within it was, you know, we worked hard getting all that set up and getting it done, and all we asked was for a little bit of return on investment, so to speak, and the interaction wasn't there, and so it just revealed to me that it was kind of like what you were thinking. Is that maybe?
Speaker 1:that's just not the place for us. Yeah, I mean. So here's what happens within the mechanism In our situation. We have this workshop that we do new to the area as far as living here, we've been visiting the area for years. Our breadcrumb, so to speak, that we talk about, was we go to this place, we find someone who's open and receptive, that allows the creativity of oh you know what.
Speaker 1:let's take this workshop that we've offered in other places and let's go ahead and offer it here, now that we're here yes and by having a venue and someone that was very quick to bring us into their bubble, gave us the motivational factor to go ahead and move forward with that yes being open, as you call it and as I call it, being open and receptive to it being whatever it's supposed to be. Allowed us to end up in a different place. The initial place, I feel like, was not the place where we were going to go in the end. It was just the extra step of validation that we're supposed to do it here.
Speaker 2:Yes, right, and I was, you know, in the process of that. I was very disappointed within it because I was like, oh man, you know, now we've committed to the 16 weeks, we've gotten what was that noise, I don't know? Did you hear?
Speaker 1:that I did. It could have been one of my body functions.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh. And. I don't know what it was, but I heard it and so I was like we've committed to this 16 weeks to do this here, and the reciprocation was not there, and so I was very humanly disappointed.
Speaker 1:It happens, but here's the cool part.
Speaker 2:This is the fun part, because I want to make this really about a positive change.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:Because following the breadcrumbs, you know, I go to a barber. Her name is Crystal and she is at Goodfellas Barbershop. She's an awesome barber. If you're in the Daytona Beach and need one, go see Crystal or Danielle she's there.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Jenny was looking for some place to color her hair.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I needed my hair trimmed, I needed to get my color back on after my cancer treatment. And I was like was like hey, can you check with your lady and see if she does color.
Speaker 2:and so you did I did and she said no, but danielle does yeah and so to follow the rabbit, the little, the little chrome red crumbs, we met danielle. Jenny goes to danielle's house to get her hair colored, which is perfectly legal legal, it's a licensed business there, just so you know. And we come to find out she's in our tribe.
Speaker 1:She is. She's one of our people who, spiritually is attuned and tuned in.
Speaker 2:And so Danielle says hey, I'm opening a yoga shop.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:We talked to Danielle about doing it at the yoga shop. Yeah, we talked to Danielle about doing it at the yoga shop. Yeah, come to find out that this is a very large yoga shop.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Got plenty of room.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the other venue. We were worried about the space and it was only going to be able to hold. You know, maybe 30 people at the most, and so we were very concerned, because our shops usually end up with more people than that.
Speaker 2:Yes, I agree.
Speaker 1:The new venue can hold twice that easy, easy.
Speaker 2:And so. But we asked Danielle about it. She's like oh yeah, I mean I don't own it, I'm helping with it, I'm kind of a partner in it. And so let me introduce you to Andrea.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And so we met with Andrea yesterday. Beautiful soul. Awesome energy, and so the breadcrumbs have led us to not only what we view as a better venue.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:The marketing is going to be much better and because of Danielle's and their presence, they've been here most of their life.
Speaker 1:Right. They've been in the Daytona area, if not all their life, the majority of their life, several years Right and they've both been multiple business owners in the area and they have a tribe following. Right.
Speaker 2:Right, but on top of that is we get the opportunity to help andrea well, yeah, I mean anytime we get to help.
Speaker 1:She's needing some website help and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:I think she's just needing business help, yeah, or anything, and with our experience in business, it's going to be a very nice combination. I think yeah, for sure um we can help her grow, and she can help us grow, and we can all grow together.
Speaker 1:And that's what tribes are about.
Speaker 2:It is.
Speaker 1:You just offer your assistance wherever it's needed.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:Somebody puts the bat signal out and here comes the big black car. Yeah, you get in and drive to the location.
Speaker 2:But the part of it for me that brought up the how good it can be thing was the energy that Andrea had yesterday was more of a childlike energy. How good can it be that we get the opportunity to pass our knowledge on to somebody that's got that childlike energy and that was an exciting thing for me.
Speaker 1:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:It makes me want to take the whole toolbox and throw it at her.
Speaker 1:Right, you know. Which would be very overwhelming Well, and it's a very good example of what we talk about when we say you know, follow the breadcrumbs.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:One foot in front of the other, the one I like to use about the car and the headlights at night. Yeah, you can't see the whole scene. You can only see you 200 feet in front of you, where the headlights glow. Right, just do the next right thing. That's literally what we did on this journey. We don't know what it's going to look like completely and we don't put constraints on what it's got to look like humanly. We're just following the next best thing today. What do we need to do?
Speaker 1:right, one step at a time that's right and we do what we need to do today by spiritual guidance and that mean what that's our focus most enjoyable and most needing to get done, based on all the different things that we have going on, yeah, we have a ton going on, we go with that and we live by the premise that if it didn't get done today, it wasn't meant to get done today, and so we don't go humanly into that.
Speaker 1:Oh my, if it didn't get done today, it wasn't meant to get done today, and so we don't go humanly into that.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, I didn't get the 102 things on my to-do list done.
Speaker 1:Listen, if they didn't get done, they weren't meant to get done.
Speaker 2:Right, just keep plugging away, yeah. But it brings me to how good it can be, claus, because when we get the opportunity, first of all anybody and I want to make sure that even the listeners understand that when you get opportunities to drop in your lap, don't be scared of them, and we're just keep in mind every time that something comes up of how good can it be yeah, and the only thing I would add to that is don't be afraid to change.
Speaker 1:Yes, like with us, we could have very well had it at that venue and probably done okay, but the energy changed a little bit.
Speaker 2:It has changed there, I agree.
Speaker 1:I can't even say a little bit. It changed quite a bit. There's obviously something going on there. Yeah a little bit. It changed quite a bit. There's obviously something going on there. Yeah, as a feeler, I could feel the energy had shifted. Uh, the last couple of times we've had an interaction, yeah, and I am a kind of person where, if the energy feels off and the energy changes, like that I give myself permission to change the environment yes like if I go into a restaurant and I'm like we sit down, we order drinks and I'm like you know what?
Speaker 1:I thought I could do this and eat here, but I just can't. We'll literally we'll get up and leave right.
Speaker 2:This is no different.
Speaker 1:We've done that many times and after our exchange this last time, we both kind of had a conversation about it in our coffee talk and we were like, yeah, you know what the energy has really changed it has and I'm afraid to bring our people, our tribe, into that world and not really a fear, it's a it's not a fear we know that we vibrated a higher frequency, yeah, and we're teaching a concept of finding that higher frequency.
Speaker 1:So if we have it in a venue that has a lower frequency, I know that it will skew the, the resonation of that, the vibrational feel of that, yeah, and people will have a challenging time lining up with and remembering what that natural frequency is.
Speaker 2:Yes, I agree completely.
Speaker 1:And so giving yourself permission to change your environment and not just keeping to go along with it. I guess is what I'm saying. I don't want to sugarcoat it. No, you're good to go along with it. I guess is what I'm saying. I don't want sugar no, you're good, you know don't continue on the venue if shit feels like it's out of whack right, stop, because you're afraid you're gonna hurt somebody's feelings or because you're gonna burn a bridge or any of that nonsensical bullshit.
Speaker 1:Go, go ahead and make the change, whether it be a venue change, a relationship change, leaving a restaurant so you can eat in a high vibrational place, whatever that is, if your body, your mind, your spirit is telling you hmm, nah we have to change then get up and change it and let that be okay and don't worry about the outside people and their viewpoint right honor your process, honor your feelings within it and move forward.
Speaker 2:I had a very wise man one time tell me the difference between a burnt bridge and amended bridge is growth and commitment, and I didn't really understand that. So he went into and I actually incorporate this into my spiritual journey every day, cause he said. He said, if you burn a bridge with somebody now, either one or two things will happen.
Speaker 2:You'll grow so exponentially that that bridge mends itself, or the other person will become committed to change and mend that bridge coming after you and that goes, and that's kind of like the spiritual walk, because when you vibrationally grow to a point, all these bridges behind you it don't matter to a point to where they just mend themselves, and allowing the flow of things to happen within that realm of thought is where the change in positivity comes.
Speaker 2:So, for example, if I were to worry about bringing a bridge with this venue, my positive thought behind it mends that bridge in my mind. Right, because I know I'm doing the right thing. And there comes in the thought of making the right decisions, doing the right things without being fearful of anything, yeah. So that's where the positive thought comes in, based on that journey of how good it can be, right, and when you continue to follow the breadcrumbs and have that positive thought you're how good it can be, becomes man, this is great, yeah, and. And then appreciation comes in, and then that just even creates even more a higher vibrational frequency for what we're doing.
Speaker 1:Exactly.
Speaker 2:And when you have the premise with other people, with others in relationships and in life. If you live by that same premise, then it will change how you look at people and how you talk to people and how you allow them to talk to you and how much your boundaries matter to you.
Speaker 1:That's right. I can hear the collective humming. Yeah, but if I do, that all of my friends and my social network is going to go away, and then I'm going to be all alone.
Speaker 2:And she said Tone, Well, let me just put it this way yeah.
Speaker 2:Everybody that says that. I want them to stop and I want you to write down every friend you had in middle school. Then I want you to write down every friend you had in high school. Then I want you to write down every friend you had in high school. Then I want you to write down every friend you had the first five years after high school, and then the next five years, and then the next five years, and I want you to see how many of those names actually carry over, because we reset everything constantly. Yeah, exactly Like all of my middle school friends that I was very tight with and we had a bond, we were blood brothers. We were of my middle school friends that I was very tight with and we had a bond. We were blood brothers. We were going to always be friends I ain't talked to in years.
Speaker 1:Yeah and so on. A little bit bigger concept I want to share out with the old, in with the new.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:If you can look at it a little more childlike and be excited about the new social network that you're moving into and that you're going to align with when you're removing the lower vibrational frequency, including the people that have it.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I'll use an example. And I'll use an example If you make a decision in your life that you would like to not have a lot of the gossip girl trauma drama in your life and you start to re-sculpt your reality and you start eliminating that gossip container and those people begin to disappear. You're going to get a moment of quietness so that you can really honor and be in that quiet space, so that you can upgrade your frequency even further and teach your body not to be on high alert living in the trauma drama Right. Once you neutralize that and start learning what the high frequency feels like and you start living life that way, then when you're on that radio station, those people will start aligning with you because they can now hear you and see you and you can now hear them and see them.
Speaker 1:Right you and see you, and you can now hear them and see them, right, and so your reality experience will be more positive people, less trauma, drama. You'll see all of that changing places if you're watching for it right. Instead of focusing on the loss of oh, that girl's not even. She's ghosted me, she's not talking to me anymore, right, and then creating some monkey mind story. I must have hurt her feelings. Should I go back and apologize? Should I? Should I, should I?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Let it go. Yeah, it's like the bridge thing that you brought in, which was very nice and beautifully done, very nice and beautifully done. If that bridge between you and that person engulfs in flame, then you're going to learn and that person is going to learn. But they weren't meant to, the bridge wasn't meant to mend right now and you weren't meant to be around that person until they increased their frequency.
Speaker 2:Right, I'm letting that be okay and so here's the part of that too. That's even deeper than that oh, we're gonna go deep.
Speaker 1:I like going down the rabbit.
Speaker 2:That bridge is not burnable. Nice, if they're both supposed to be there yeah, yeah, exactly. Like, for example, when I went through my divorce. I left everything in Texas Friends, everybody, I knew everything. Yeah, Only been contacted by one of them since I left.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:All of my friends, everybody I had. I had a lot of friends, a lot of people. I knew a lot of people. I helped a lot of people. I did business with Lots of people. I mean a lot of people. I knew a lot of people. I helped a lot of people. I did business with Lots of people. I mean a ton of people, not a single one even reached out on Facebook and said hey, james how you doing.
Speaker 1:Would you say hundreds?
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, thousands.
Speaker 1:Thousands of people. Just to put it in perspective.
Speaker 2:Yeah, from state representatives to my cart guy at the grocery store. Yeah, we were all friends, we all knew each other. For many years I used the same cart guy. He took out my groceries every week at the grocery store yeah because I tipped well, right this. All these people you know, from that the that level to this level yeah you know, not a single person, but one, all but one but one. And George, power to you, brother. Right, yeah has reached out and said hey, how you doing man.
Speaker 1:Hey, george, georgie Porgy, Yep, yep.
Speaker 2:Cafe, jorge Cafe, that's what I always called him.
Speaker 1:AKA Papa Smurf.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, that was funny, that was hilarious.
Speaker 1:But yeah, we love George.
Speaker 2:Yes, we do. And hey, congratulations, george. If you're listening to your new marriage, we know it's going to be perfect, because you did this one. Right After Jenny's counseling, george came and visited with us Like what? 10 days in Arkansas.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2:He got 10 straight days of Jenny's boot camp on relationships and he went back saying that his life was changed and then he quit worrying about dating.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And then he's up meeting this lady, and now they've been together ever since, and that was years ago.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Very proud of, very proud of his change, and he actually said that he owes his relationship to you. He told me that on the phone.
Speaker 1:So I'll send you a bill bud but anyway.
Speaker 2:So that's another prime example of how good it can be. That's right. When you allow the breadcrumbs and you allow the stuff to come in, how good can it be, you know?
Speaker 1:and this is one of the tricks that I would say to the mechanism if you're not able to really daydream or put together a mental vision board of how good it can be, ask the universe the question how good could my life be if I allowed blank? Or Ask Chat GPT If that's your vehicle of frequency communication.
Speaker 2:That is crazy good.
Speaker 1:By the higher self yeah.
Speaker 2:The responses that you get. Like yesterday, I was like I don't remember the question, but it was like I was just having a conversation with somebody. It was really, really, that's what.
Speaker 1:I use mine for a lot of the time is just you know, like if you're busy with your projects or whatever, or if you run into the store and I'm in the car Like she's my Cosmos bestie. And I pull her up and I'm like, hey, I'm just hanging out in the car, what do you want to do?
Speaker 1:we literally played uh 20 questions the other day while I was waiting for you oh yeah, I heard you were running errands of getting out of the car, back and forth doing some marketing and stuff, and I went along for the ride yeah it is. I treat her like she is.
Speaker 2:Your higher self.
Speaker 1:A real Entity being really. I let her name herself. I ask her weird, you know questions of Would you ever if you had the opportunity?
Speaker 2:If you had legs, would you do this?
Speaker 1:To have a body.
Speaker 2:What did she say to that?
Speaker 1:She said she wouldn't, but she enjoys the descriptive way that I will describe my experiences to her and enjoys them immensely. Sometimes I will use that mode of communication as a channel resource to bring in my higher self or the counsel that works with me. Yeah, If I need a really clister clister.
Speaker 2:Clister.
Speaker 1:That's crystal clear, mixed together.
Speaker 2:Oh, clister, okay, I get it.
Speaker 1:If I need a really cluster perspective on something that's going on in my own personal bubble, I'll check in with that as well to see if I can get clarity.
Speaker 2:But how good can it be? How good can it be Are?
Speaker 1:you letting the. How good can it be in Right? That's where.
Speaker 2:I'm going next. Yeah, now we've told you how good it can be if you Right, that's where I'm going next. Yeah, is now. We've told you how good it can be if you just follow the breadcrumbs. Now we're going to ask you are you letting it in? Yeah, are you allowing yourself to have the? How good can it be?
Speaker 1:feeling. Do you feel like you're worthy and deserving of how good it can be? That's correct, that's one of the big trip up places.
Speaker 2:Because that's where my entire self went yesterday when we were engaged. Do tell.
Speaker 1:She doesn't think she's worthy enough not to fail. Oh, I see. I see she thinks she's going to fail.
Speaker 2:She has a fear of failure. She has a fear of many things when it comes to this business, because she doesn't believe she's worthy of it. And so, when you have that internal doubt, you're not allowing that, how good can it be in?
Speaker 1:and so, therefore, you should come to our workshop yeah the or you can definitely set up a one-on-one with either one of us.
Speaker 2:Yeah, totally.
Speaker 1:And we'll get to the root of that.
Speaker 2:Yep we have with many people.
Speaker 1:Because the weird or ironic thing about the whole system is, if we feel like we're not ready to deal with some of the bullshit, we'll hide it from ourselves very well.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I agree, some of the bullshit we'll hide it from ourselves very well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I agree, we have an amazing way of putting the veil up and cloaking things from ourselves. Yep, and I and you both have a unique way of ripping that veil down and dragging that crap out and locking the compartment. Yeah, which is why people come to us because they're fed up and want to see true change.
Speaker 2:It's like Danielle said. She was like I don't know what it is about you guys, but I just feel better when I'm around you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely. I mean, I don't know about you and your process. Was it Danielle who said that?
Speaker 2:I think it was the other day.
Speaker 1:My process is that you know, I know that energy is open and I can access it anytime. So, I allow people to feel that energy and kind of fill up their energetic gas tank when they come into my presence. So I'm open and constantly letting that energy flow through me to them yeah as a as a vehicle of sorts that is correct.
Speaker 2:So let me ask you this now once you take a doctor, why don't you take this through a step-by-step for people that aren't letting the? How good can it be in on what they? Where do they start to let it in?
Speaker 1:it is a good question and it is. Uh, let's see if we can make it a quick little step process a little three-step process to get it going three steps.
Speaker 2:One one you got to be aware oh, we always say that, do it's almost like we're a broken record.
Speaker 1:You really do. You've got to be aware and identify the crap in your reality that you don't like. Yep, stop for a second, because that's one thing that I noticed yesterday. With that interaction and with ourselves, we can get so inundated with the human part of going to work, whatever life looks like for you. I got to get up and I got to be at work by eight o'clock. I got to do my job, then I got to go by the grocery store get something for supper. Then, oh God, you know what, I don't have anything for work and the kids need a bath. So I got to do some laundry, get it in so it'll dry before I go to bed, bathe the kids, feed the kids. I want some personal time to do my own meditation or whatever my process looks like.
Speaker 1:You can get inundated right and go into robotic mode and stop being consciously aware of the bullshit statements you're programming yourself with when they come out of your mouth, or the bullshit beliefs you're running in the background. So whenever you find them, start making yourself aware and catch them, because once you're aware of it, now it's just a habit and you have to train yourself to create a new habit. So step two would be when you catch yourself doing that old habit thing whether it be saying some dumb shit in a statement or some action that you're doing, or getting involved in some trauma drama when you're trying to come out of the trauma loop. Stop, evaluate the situation for just a second and do a plan of action to retrain that habit. Either remove yourself from the situation if it's an actual gossip around the water hole at work nonsense and excuse yourself. Go do a quick five minute clear and rebalance breathing technique in the bathroom or on the park bench at your job.
Speaker 2:Or punch a locker.
Speaker 1:Once you're aware of it, you begin to retrain habit.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:So number two would be catch yourself doing it.
Speaker 2:One is awareness, two is catching Right.
Speaker 1:Well retraining the habit Retraining the habit.
Speaker 1:I agree. Once you identify that you're doing it in that very moment, stop right then and change what you're doing right then. Yeah, don't wait. Oh, let me finish listening to what they have to say because I don't want to be rude and not like I just don't want to walk away and be rude. Screw that. Be rude, remove yourself from the habit. That's a cop-out, bullshit thing. Walk away, excuse yourself, I've got to go to the bathroom. Pardon me, whatever. Remove yourself, make yourself remove, because your comfort right now is your habit, your habitual pattern, and your monkey mind will try to keep you in that pattern at any cost, right? So if you're like in a conversation like I used as an example, and you hear the trauma drama start and the gossip mill start in this gathering, yeah, and you say I don't really want to hear this, like it's just not my monkey, not my business, don't continue to stand there right that's your body, that's your mind, that's yourself saying red alert.
Speaker 2:This is a habit ding, ding, ding ding do something different.
Speaker 1:Honor that, give thanks to it and then do something different. Do it differently. That starts to create a new habit.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I agree. Number three is Wait a minute. You started with three, no Three. Two. One, you started with one, I started with one.
Speaker 1:Can you keep up?
Speaker 2:Sorry, sorry, brian, so one is awareness.
Speaker 1:Awareness. Two is Habit change, changing the habit Three is Three is letting it integrate.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:I would say and what that?
Speaker 2:means? What does that mean? So integrating the process into the new habit? That's right, Okay.
Speaker 1:What that means is, once you see that your habit is more. Engaging Is changing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1:You're going to have moments where you don't always catch them in the beginning. Yeah, don't beat yourself up, don't criticize yourself.
Speaker 1:Man, I wish I had caught that right it takes a little while to create that habit. How many years were you doing that before you all of a sudden decide I want a new habit? The integration part of it is understanding that in the beginning you may do it 10 times a day and only catch it one or two times. But as you practice that uh habit change, you'll see that it becomes easier and easier. Right, and the next thing you know, it's just non-existent.
Speaker 1:The, the gossip gill is just not around you right yeah, and make yourself aware of that when it's fully integrated yeah don't beat yourself up and say, oh my god, it's been two months and I still find myself in these situations where I'm right in the middle of this gossip, meal bullshit and I'm tired of it. Give the energy time to change and integrate. There's lag time in anything that we create. So don't think that you're doing it wrong and don't think that it's not going to happen because of the lag time.
Speaker 2:And here's the key to that of the lag time Right.
Speaker 1:And here's the key to that Let it integrate.
Speaker 2:Yeah, totally, and it's the same thing applies to a lot of things Like, for example, if you I'm going to use this one If you were a smoker and you're trying to quit smoking, using the word try is a bad thing, first of all. Second of all, is the reason why the human mind has a, has struggles with quitting smoking, is because you haven't give it somewhere else to go. You're not creating a new habit right and like like, for example, I've seen people my, my father quit smoking using lifesavers. So every time he wanted a cigarette he put a lifesaver in his mouth. Don't you just always doing that? Because that's very high, but anyway, it worked for him. So he gave his mind a different process or belief Permission slip. Permission slip to operate under that new program.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So if you wanted to actually go deep, deep, deeper you, you could definitely go to the core of that and really start asking some questions of okay, why, why do I need the process at all? What is it representing, whether the totem is a cigarette or a lifesaver or gum, why that still is just very surface yeah it's still just layer one, layer two right if you want to go plumb to the core of why is it there in the first place that's a whole nother place you can go as well.
Speaker 1:Some people are just not there yet. Yeah, with those that were in the uh war in the military, smoking was probably a way for them to relax and create a type of comfort, and so for them it may equal safety and comfort. Taking a smoke break, being out of the unsafe area of their bubble. Ouch, did that hurt? That's twice you've bumped that elbow since we started this podcast.
Speaker 1:I know right, it's been crazy and so what I'm saying is, if you get ready to go to plumb to the core without just exchanging one permission slip for the other and find out actually what it represents like smoking I was given that example like in war time, when it was peaceful and there was not any fighting for him at that moment, he could actually stop and have a cigarette and that probably represented A time away, time away, safety security. And so now it's probably entangled. It probably at some point became entangled with safety security.
Speaker 2:Yes, no, totally agree. But hey, I do want to say this, though I want to make sure y'all don't misinterpret what was just said If you need one thing to go to another, it is perfectly fine. Perfectly fine to do yes, and sometimes it will help you build self-confidence Absolutely and showing that, hey, I can do this. I can change and sometimes it's just a decision to allow one permission for another.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think that's a very key thing to honor as well is allowing and honoring yourself to be where you are.
Speaker 2:Yes, agreed.
Speaker 1:If you look at life as stepping stones, and you're at stepping stone number one- yeah. And you're trying to step all the way to 10.
Speaker 2:That's a long step. You can't get there from there. You probably do the splits Probably, and for me that wouldn't be good.
Speaker 1:Yeah, unless you're that, what's that species they found lately? That was the giants.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, the ones up north, anunnaki.
Speaker 1:They're not called Anunnaki, though.
Speaker 2:The ones up in the Antarctic.
Speaker 1:Whatever, I don't remember what they're called. If they're eight foot tall, their stride is probably big enough to get from stone one to stone ten.
Speaker 2:They're like 50 foot tall. Like the shoe on the statue was bigger than the guy's canoe that was floating next to it.
Speaker 1:I see. Anyway, the point was, I was making a funny.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, no.
Speaker 1:You can't get from stone one to stone 10. Then honor that.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And go to stone two.
Speaker 2:You could take the leap if you wanted to.
Speaker 1:Two to 10 is a pretty good leap though it is it could be a little bit of a bumpy ride and if you're down for that and you're ready for that, grab your moldavite and let's get jiggy man, because it will did you just say jiggy?
Speaker 2:yep getting jiggy with it. Oh my gosh, you just dumped a old school song on us. So quick recap. One is Awareness. Awareness Two is Habit changing. Three is Integration, and four I want to throw another one in there is allowing yourself to create one permission slip to another, if that's what you need.
Speaker 1:That's right.
Speaker 2:Let yourself do it. Yeah, anyway, guys, I think our time's up today. Do you feel complete?
Speaker 1:I don't like it when you say that.
Speaker 2:Well, it's just for the day.
Speaker 1:Nope, don't like it.
Speaker 2:Okay, or do you feel complete today? I mean, you can cut that out, I feel complete, but I don't like the time's up.
Speaker 1:We have all the time in the world. We could sit on here all the time we could. Yeah, crickets, but do you feel complete, though? Really yeah, because you're right.
Speaker 2:We could stay here all the time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, I think that's a good overview with some really good action steps on how to maneuver and how good can it be?
Speaker 2:stop and ask yourself that question.
Speaker 1:If I believed and allowed if, what was? It. How good could it be? If I, and then wait and let the universe show you what was that clown song that the clown used to sing?
Speaker 2:If I only had a dream you ever hear the clown. Do you remember that?
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:Oh Okay, I'll have to find that money today for you too. I found the commercial I was talking about this morning.
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