The Spiritual Grind
Dr. Jenni PhD,RN,CHLC,CH and medium and Rev. James ORD, MhsB have spent countless years studying and practicing many modalities within the "Spiritual" domain. Dr. Jenni has dedicated her life to helping others by attending countless schools and developing each of her practices and strategies. Rev. James has studied many modalities and Native American practices and they have Both decided to open their library of knowledge to share this information with everyone in a down to earth style, with hope to assist in making your journey easier and more abundant.
The Spiritual Grind
What Would You Regret If Your Partner Disappeared Tomorrow?
We explore how unconscious fear of loss can sabotage our closest relationships and create the very loneliness we're trying to avoid. Recognizing these patterns allows us to move from fear-based detachment to conscious, present-moment connection.
• Examining how the fear of future loss can cause us to unconsciously detach from partners
• Looking at your reality as a mirror to recognize what you need to hear about yourself
• Replacing blame with personal accountability in relationship challenges
• Asking yourself what you would regret if your partner were gone tomorrow
• The frog analogy - how we often don't recognize deteriorating conditions until it's too late
• Living life fully in the present moment rather than from fear of the future
• Taking action on loving impulses rather than withholding affection
• The importance of appreciation versus taking things for granted
Join us for our upcoming Power of Thought Workshop starting October 3rd at the Holistic House in Holly Hill. Visit us at https://www.themerccenters.org for more information or check out our new store at https://thesaltytarot.myshopify.com
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Speaker 1:Hello everybody, welcome back to the show. We are here in house again. As you can tell, we're recording. How y'all like it, you like it, I can't tell. I did it. Good morning. I feel like we have an audience today, like we're there's. We have cameras stuck everywhere. I feel like we're being watched, oogly. It's like somebody's spying on us. I feel like it's crazy. But anyway, uh, welcome back to the spiritual grind. Welcome to the spiritual grind.
Speaker 2:Welcome to the video world, yeah the video world.
Speaker 1:Man, we're really trying to get this worked out, where it's consistent and set up the right way. If you were in studio, you would say how are you setting this up the right way right now? But we're learning. Okay, it's a learning curve.
Speaker 2:Yeah, definitely we're experiencing that new learning curve going from audio to full video. But I remember when you were experiencing that learning curve, just figuring out the podcast though, yeah, I researched this A whole year ago.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I researched the best stuff to get you know for podcasting and they didn't tell you the learning curve behind it no, so I went and bought the roadcaster duo and the road mics, all the fancy equipment. Yeah, downloaded all the stuff and, wow, it took me a minute to learn it all well, I mean, aside from purchasing the equipment you had, like this big huge manual, manual that you had me print off and I can remember you sitting there for hours on end reading through that and figuring out the buttons.
Speaker 1:The Rodecaster itself does so much filtering that I had to set all that up to where it's automatic and every time we move I have to change the filters move around automatic, you know, and like every time we move, I have to change the filters, move around, and well, not only that, but you had different apps that it requires yes and those each had their own individual accounts that he had to set up yeah, this didn't have, uh, its own app yet.
Speaker 1:Well, it does. Actually. Let me reframe, let me rephrase that it's got its. It's's got an interface app to where you can change the sounds and everything and download directly to your computer.
Speaker 2:Right, but I'm just talking about, like the Buzzsprout and Audacity, I had to set all those accounts up. Different accounts that feed into one and the other to actually be able to edit and upload.
Speaker 1:Don't get me wrong. Buzzsprout's easy and so is audacity. It is now, but get it set up I was gonna say you know yeah I hate when people use that word it's easy.
Speaker 2:They triggered me because I remember the long evenings of listening to you with a few cuss words.
Speaker 1:Blue choice words in the background.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I was sitting there trying to get it all set up. So it may feel easy now, but at the time it was.
Speaker 1:It was fun. It was really fun to learn. Actually, I enjoyed it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but it had its moments. At the time it was frustrating.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's right, Our topic of the day you ready for that, of course? Is everybody, are y'all ready? Y'all ready for this?
Speaker 2:look at this beauty. I just wanted to show this beautiful, you're selling that ball. This one is this is selenite but I I feel like it has a mermaid essence. I don't know if the camera can pick it up or not, but this is my all-time favorite bubble wrap.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you see it was in Hurricane Milton in bubble wrap. It sat in the salt water until all the water receded at the stone shop in Clearwater.
Speaker 2:Right. And what it did is it created these lovely little mermaid scales.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it does look like scales, Scale yeah it's kind of cool.
Speaker 2:And it is so wonderful.
Speaker 1:It's crazy what saltwater does to that.
Speaker 2:It's wonderful. I was like, oh yeah, I got to have that one man.
Speaker 1:That's what saltwater does when it has to sit. He said it was in underwater for like three weeks in the saltwater, but it's pretty cool, you got it. It did turn out pretty cool, he sold it cheap. He did because he saw it damaged, Of course you bought this one too, and then you bought that one.
Speaker 2:But he saw it damaged, I saw perfection.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I get it Kind of like me. Everybody saw me damaged. You saw perfection.
Speaker 2:That's up for debate. I'm kidding, did you all hear it?
Speaker 1:But anyway, that kind of carries right over into our topic today.
Speaker 2:You do tell.
Speaker 1:You know, for the last three podcasts we've talked about spiritual, had two sessions on spiritual sex, and then we also have a episode on appreciation, and this morning we had a coffee talk.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And it kind of married right into the whole theme of today's podcast topic for me and that is don't take for granted what you appreciate and don't take for granted when you're in a relationship on any part of it. Because you know, we kind of touched on it a little bit in the relationship episode two, relationship sex on the episode two part.
Speaker 1:But don't expect what somebody chooses to do don't make an expectation, but the coolest part about it, how it all married in today to our coffee talk this morning which, by the way, I am creating, the coffee talk spiritual grind christmas collection gift pack. It's going to have two coffee cups and our own special coffee in it, by the way it's going to be in the store.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so we found a way to make our own coffee blend.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And then put our trademark or our logo or whatever Logo yeah. On it, and so that's very cool that we found that it's going to be called Coffee Talk.
Speaker 1:It's the grind. Name Coffee Talk, but it's going to be a little gift pack you can get with two coffee cups. Name coffee, but it's going to be a little gift pack. You can get with two coffee cups and and over inside.
Speaker 2:That will be a little little something, something to encourage people to have their coffee talk in the mornings yeah, I mean, that's how this all started for us and I just want to take a quick side tour that you know. Everything that we bring to this microphone, to this podcast, is something that we have experienced firsthand, and the tricks and the tools that we used or are using to navigate the experiences, or it's something that we've worked with other people as we coach hundreds and hundreds of thousands of people.
Speaker 2:It's a topic that came up on a consistent basis this is not just pull something out of your butt and let's talk about it and hope that somebody gets something out of it.
Speaker 2:These are real live things that we talk about that, that we that are going on in our bubble. And the topic you bring up is what came up for me recently, over the last few days that I am working on restructuring my perspective, and that is this I watched a movie and it brought up for me this moment where I was like, okay, if my partner were to leave today, my husband and leave means, you know, leave the relationship, leave the the planet she actually said in coffee talk this morning become non-human I think I said non-physical.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, you did say non-physical would there be anything that I regret not doing that was the question that I asked myself and in this section of Life, pie, what I answered back to myself when I was doing my work over the last couple of days is show him that just pure, deep, consistent love through physical acts, through verbal conversation, and that I can do better. And what I found when I dug even deeper is that I was working from a template of fear because I, somewhere along the way, I came to a place of wow, something ever does happen to him.
Speaker 2:And it was probably from our little medical scare. You know several. What three, four years ago.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:We kind of went off on this sidetrack. Golly is this. It like what's gonna happen right having some medical stuff with, uh, with this whole journey, and I became fearful.
Speaker 2:But the crazy part about is I didn't. I didn't consciously know that I had become fearful and what I did was I unconsciously began to pull away from sharing myself with you and accepting. Accepting your tokens of connectiveness through physical touch, holding hands I'm not just talking sexual, I'm talking, you know, walking by, giving you a kiss on the cheek or stopping to give you a hug or whatever. I stopped allowing myself to receive it and I stopped allowing myself to give it because somewhere in that defining I said okay, well, if I start pulling away now, when it does happen, if it does happen, it'll hurt less. And so inevitably, in an unconscious way, I was creating the most miserable loneliness, loneliness, and it kept coming out as a conversation between you I have. I feel like I'm living all alone, but you're here in my bubble.
Speaker 1:I don't know how many times I heard that I feel like we're roommates.
Speaker 2:I'm like and what I realized is I came to a place where I realized it's me. So, you guys, what I'm saying is we teach you guys to look at your reality as a mirror and recognize what it's showing you, and if you're verbalizing something, it's usually because you need to hear it. Wow.
Speaker 1:So long story short.
Speaker 2:I've come to that place of realizing that unconsciously I was running a template of fear of I'm you're going away first of all, which is a big fat lie. You're not going anywhere, right this minute stuck with me, so I'm living in this future.
Speaker 2:What if you go away? However, which is just an erroneous conversation, and it keeps me living in the future. I'm not even acknowledging the now and I'm living from a place of fear and because I had the filter on, from my perspective of fear, it wasn't even allowing me to show you love and affection. Of fear, it wasn't even allowing me to show you love and affection because I didn't want to be attached to you, because I didn't want to feel the hurt, but the convoluted part of it is is that it didn't feel comfortable, and it doesn't feel comfortable when I don't allow myself to act upon you.
Speaker 2:Know, like there'd be times I walk by you and I just want to give you a hug, yeah, and I don't act on it and I don't let myself because I don't want to reattach. So that's how this topic came about.
Speaker 1:When we first started dating. That's what you did, though. Anywhere I went, you were making sure you were right there in my bubble.
Speaker 2:Right, that's what you keep telling me.
Speaker 1:But you don't remember it that way.
Speaker 2:I don't think I ever really stopped to look at it until now.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And you're completely right, I was.
Speaker 1:And anywhere you went, I was in your bubble. I didn't care what you thought about it. I think I still do that now. I think wherever you go, I kind of just go with you.
Speaker 2:You do it less, but that's because I nudge you back.
Speaker 1:That's a good point.
Speaker 2:It's your fault. It's your fault. It is completely because I create my reality and I own it. I have no fault in any of this life.
Speaker 1:That's what everybody's going to mess with and they mess it up. You know. This same topic comes up in relationships. I guarantee you. I believe so and like you know, like from a man's point of view. From my point of view, I hadn't changed anything. I had continued to do the things that I did. And so I stopped and was like what am I doing? Yeah, what's wrong with me? What am I doing wrong?
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:And I started to do self-blame. And in this, what everybody needs to realize and that's one of the topics in today's podcast for me is there is not a blame in a relationship, right, if anything goes wrong with your relationship, it's your fault.
Speaker 2:Right. And you have to look at it Well. That's the kind of blame Right. It needs to be more like a critique or an awareness. There's not a projected blame.
Speaker 1:I see If anything is going wrong, like for me, like when you were going through that, I would ask you, like, what's wrong? Did I do something? Did I make you angry? Did I upset you? And I was going through the processes of trying to figure out what I did differently and I couldn't find anything different than I'd normally do, knowing what we know about sex. Our relationship is phenomenal and our life, you know, we have a, what most people dream of. Because we communicate openly, people dream of because we communicate openly, dream we, we, I, I could, I could walk up to her and tell her I'm going to sleep with both her sisters tonight and she'd be like, okay, I'll hold the camera I probably would say yeah watch out now fire, beware you know, but it's the kind of relationship that we have absolutely
Speaker 1:and and it's great you, what's really cool about it is, from the other side of this point, is you saying those kind of things and opening that door? Men over the years have kind of gotten a bad rap and they've brought it upon themselves. But when a woman opens the door to say, hey, if you're ever going to go cheap, call me and I'll go with you, I'll be the wingman, it kind of takes the taboo-ness out of it and it's a whole nother way of thinking. And so we're like Hmm, you know cause guys have a tendency to go out there? Because we know sex is for procreation and pleasure. It doesn't create love, it's a bonus of love and it's also for procreation and pleasure. And when guys would go out it'd become a challenge to a pleasure. But it opened up whole other doorways or communication of thought for me. It changed the way I thought and it was great. It's a great place to be.
Speaker 2:But going back to the part of blame, you know, like you were kind, of detaching a little bit.
Speaker 1:No, I was not just a little bit.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, well, detaching and it will cause you to pull away as well. Yeah, um, because you, I'm sure I'm like what's going on?
Speaker 1:where'd the connection go well?
Speaker 2:and if I'm giving off vibes of I don't want you around, I don't you around, I don't want to hug, I don't want to hug, don't touch me. Then of course, you're going to mimic that back to me and not even try eventually, yeah, so.
Speaker 1:But anyway, going back to the blame part of it, is there's really not a blame within it, you know, because we have a tendency as humans to blame ourselves or blame the other person.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And when we start looking like it would have been very easy for me to blame you in that situation and turned it into a fight.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And instead I was just curious of what had happened. You know what had changed. And so I went through the processes in my head of well, I guess I screwed this one up somewhere. She's not telling me, you know. And. And so I went from looking at what I did and trying to figure out what had happened to blaming myself and I'm just never going to figure it out. That happens a lot in many parameters of a relationship. It can be finances.
Speaker 1:That friend back in Texas that football officiated with, he was constantly complaining that his wife was going out shopping. She would go. She would go to the mall when he went out to do football on on Fridays and Saturdays with me. She would go shop on Saturdays with her friends. And after probably I don't know three or four years of listening to him complain about it, 28 weeks a year for football season, I finally said to him well, doesn't she work? He said yeah. And I was like what'd she do? Oh, she's an attorney, don't you work for the grocery store? Isn't she the breadwinner? And he's he's like yeah, she makes like three times more money than I do, but I do the bills, I don't care, she's making her own money. Now, if he was out spending the money that you made? Or if y'all don't combine your finances, you're blaming her for spending money. Why, yeah, you're looking for a place to blame. That happens a lot in finances. That happens in relationships. That happens in friendships. That happens, you know. It happens all over the place.
Speaker 2:And there's really no room for blame. No, I would challenge everybody to take the word blame out and replace it with growth. Anytime there's a situation where you're blaming somebody else, you need to stop and look at yourself and grow. There's some opportunity of growth there I agree. So, uh, initial question was are there any aspects of your life that, if were gone today, that you would hold regret about, and what can you do to are?
Speaker 2:you asking me not experience that no, I'm just to the, to the audience. That would be the question that, if you're looking for some opportunity for growth and expansion, I would stop and say are there any areas of my life pie that if it ceased to exist today would I have any regrets? Or if I ceased, I mean, if you're the one laying on your deathbed, would you be able to lay there and say I did exactly what I wanted to do and how I wanted to do it. Or would you say, gosh, I wished I had done this or gosh, I wished I had done that?
Speaker 1:It's a great challenge great challenge regret.
Speaker 2:Are you living life to the fullest? Are you living life big and large and ostentatious to where you have no regrets?
Speaker 1:if people are being real with themselves.
Speaker 1:I don't know how many times I've heard people say man, I wish I wouldn't done this right, or I wish I would go do this exactly this Exactly and if they're being honest with themselves and they stop and look and truly get down to it why they're not living life to the fullest Exactly and having growth and expansion, they would figure out that life is not here for us to sit and go to work from seven to five, come home and eat dinner and watch tv until 10, go to bed, watch the news and get up again and do that six, five, six days it absolutely can be for some people it can, but if you stop and ask yourself, do I have any regrets?
Speaker 2:and you honestly can answer no to that, then keep doing what you're doing, man, yeah, it's. You know, not everybody wants to live their life the way we do. It's a good opportunity to kind of just pop in see how everything's running on the inner dashboard of self, and if you're looking to see if you're clean and clear, that would be one that I would check is do you have any regrets?
Speaker 1:I've been asked that question.
Speaker 2:And if you do explore, what areas in life are they? You know, man, I wish I'd taken my career to the next level. I wished I had taken my education on to get my doctorate.
Speaker 2:I wished uh, you know, my relationship had been more physically intimate whatever whatever that life pipe portion is, if you have any regrets and you're still breathing air, you have the opportunity now to do something about it totally, totally agree to begin again I mean, look, I learned to surf at 51, yeah, and I learned to surf from a guy that's 58 oftentimes you and I have such a long resume of life, a life resume that people have a hard time believing that we have done so much in our short little 50 years and they don't believe us, and I find it just very comical. But the reality is is that we live life large If we want to go try something? Is that we live life large? If we want to go try something, we go out there and we try it, and it doesn't matter what the heck it is, man, I mean, I'm telling you, it doesn't matter if it's scuba diving, skydiving, learning how to do an app.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm doing that currently. I'm learning how to do an app. I'm actually building an app right now.
Speaker 2:Writing a book. Oh, yep, working on my second Writing a bicycle yeah. I mean it doesn't matter. Don't let yourself be sideswiped by fear. Right, Go do it. Figure out a way to do it.
Speaker 1:And that goes for relationships as well. Oh yeah, don't. Don't regret doing anything when it comes to your relationship, right, you know, if you have that thought in mind, act on it, act on it.
Speaker 2:It's there for a reason don't have the regrets.
Speaker 1:And when you, when you have like you know, in our previous podcast, when we've talked about spiritual sex and then we talk about appreciation, now we're talking about not having regret, and this is all relationship talk, yeah and when you don't have regrets, you find out like, like I think, every single day, I have true appreciation because I don't have any regrets. Do I have things I would have changed a little differently? Maybe, maybe, but I have things I would have changed a little differently.
Speaker 1:Maybe, maybe. But I have no regrets because I still have plans to go do a lot of continue to live life. Absolutely, and I can't have regrets if I'm still living Right. And so, when it comes to your relationships, act upon it. Yeah, you know, do your, do your thing. You know, don't at one time stop and say to yourself I wish I'd have done that. Yeah, yeah, you know, do your thing. You know. Don't at one time stop and say to yourself man I wish I'd have done that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah. And, like you know, you're talking about our stories and when we first came to the Tampa area and I was telling the story to one of the people about us opening a 50s diner, we purchased it, built it, opened it, did a million dollars in sales and closed it all in 10 months. Right, that was pretty funny. Witness, exactly what happened. We rented the place 54 days later. We opened it. We had it open for seven and a half months. We did $987,000 in sales in nine and a half months and then you and I both looked at each other one day in the kitchen like I really just don't want to do this.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean it served its purpose.
Speaker 1:We came.
Speaker 2:We showed you that we could.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was.
Speaker 2:We did. We had lots of expansion and growth from it.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, totally, it was a good time you know that's a good example of sometimes.
Speaker 2:Things come into your reality and you put them in place not because they're supposed to be there forever, right. Not because they were ever intended to come to full fruition Right. But sometimes because in doing the actual journey to the end goal is where you get the growth and expansion that you were seeking, even if you didn't realize you were seeking it. And so then the end game, or the goal of it, dissipates, because it was never meant to hit the goal mark. It was for your benefit along the way. That's why people say sometimes the importance is in the journey itself instead of the finish line or the goal. Is that you were never meant to accomplish the goal?
Speaker 1:You know, we should really have cups of coffee in here.
Speaker 2:I actually do have my hot tea. Today I'm drinking tea called masala masala tea. Oh, that's when you bought it last yeah, it's an indian tea and it's quite lovely you know, that guy was like I keep waiting for you to order our spiritual grind coffee cups so that I can have it sitting here I will order them. Sorry, you can pour your.
Speaker 1:Pepsi in it. I've been like, not like I haven't been doing anything, been a little busy, yeah for sure, starting to open in the store, building an app.
Speaker 2:Yeah. Learning how to do video Speaking of the store is open for business guys.
Speaker 1:Grand opening the salty tarotmyshopifycom. You can go to our website too, and we're going to have the Salty Tarot app out within days.
Speaker 2:You think, are we there?
Speaker 1:yet, maybe two weeks, okay, but it's going to be in beta in the next two days. It'll be in beta.
Speaker 2:Oh, in beta testing. Yeah, very excited about that. And then up and coming is your.
Speaker 1:The Power of Positive Thought School Right Workshop. It's a 16-week workshop. It's on Eventbrite.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It starts on October the 3rd and it runs through january the 16th right right, um, which actually may go a week longer than that, because I forgot about halloween. That's a friday this year oh, yeah, yeah, I saw, that, but see what happens. I'll ask the class when we get to that point.
Speaker 1:But yeah um, so that's on eventbrite. It's 25 a week or it's 360 if you buy the whole session up front, gonna have a workbook, it's got lots of things with it and a certificate at the end If you complete 80% of the courses. And then it'll be on our Shopify or our website eventually, so y'all can purchase it if you want to Is that. Hiccups. It was the Hiccups, yeah, came out of nowhere. Oh yeah, you know what they say about hiccups. A spirit just walked by.
Speaker 1:A what A spirit. Just walked by and gives you hiccups.
Speaker 2:Like walked through you or by you.
Speaker 1:I've never heard that.
Speaker 2:I've never heard that I play with dead people all the time and I don't get hiccups.
Speaker 1:Well, I don't know where your tiddlywinks are, but if they walk by me I get hiccups.
Speaker 2:I don't think I got any of those.
Speaker 1:You didn't get any tiddlywinks.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:I don't even know what I mean. I know what they are. This is a little game that you make them jump.
Speaker 2:It's a real game, yeah it's a real game. But it's a real game. Yeah, it's a real game. Omg, I was today years old.
Speaker 1:It's actually their little round clear plastic pieces and they're like see-through in their different color and I believe the game was as you, you have to take your tiddly wink and you, you, you push on the edge of it and make theirs hop out of the circle, and if it don't hop out of the circle, they pick theirs up and they pop one years out, and then the first person to get the other person's tiddly winks all out of the circle wins oh, I see yeah, you don't.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's a true, that's a real game. They used to come in a little cardboard box and it was like 20 of each color.
Speaker 2:Interesting.
Speaker 1:And yeah, it's actually a science game because it makes you learn how every action has an equal and opposite reaction.
Speaker 2:Kind of like a physics science game.
Speaker 1:Yeah, a physics science game, and you learn how to angle that energy away from you and pop it out of the circle. I got pretty good at it when I was a kid, yeah, but it's kind of like marbles. You know shooting marbles so no regrets no regrets, yeah live life large played all those games on top of a made mud pies, played in my cars and come to find out I was on top of a septic tank figure out a way Bashar says on his.
Speaker 2:I love listening to Bashar. Yeah, he says on one of his things because I can hear the buzz, and it's the buzz in the collective. I can hear it and it says this yeah, it's real easy for you to say you have all this money to be able to just go do whatever you want to do, and I live paycheck to paycheck and.
Speaker 2:I can barely afford to buy groceries. Pick one small thing and do it. Figure out a way to do it. Anyway, back to what he says, when you can do more with less you will Less becomes more. Yeah, your less becomes more, yep.
Speaker 2:I mean and the thing I want to bring into play is you and I have both been on journeys where we literally took our last couple hundred dollars, or like with me, I took the cleaning supplies that I clean in my own house off of under my cabinet and I went and started a cleaning company. Yeah, and very successful cleaning company made lots of money, and so it can be done. You just have to get your butt out there and do it.
Speaker 1:You know what it's more about. It's not about what you have. It's about what you have inside of you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the gumption, because we get caught in a rut.
Speaker 1:You know people say I can't put $20 in my 401k, I don't have the gas to do this. When they just do it, what they find out is the energy flows.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And everything goes right. But what are we where? It's that frog mentality and and have you heard the analogy of the frog? You put a frog in, you take a frog and you put him in a pot of boiling water and he'll jump right back out no shit and you put a he will wait, stop, he will yeah, yeah, he'll jump out of the water because it's hot.
Speaker 2:Now you take it you put him in there alive yeah why would you put him in there alive?
Speaker 1:what it's. I'm just making an analogy here. Bear with me here. Okay, miss distracted. So you take it. It's an analogy. You put a hot, you put a frog into a pot of boiling water. That frog will jump out 100. Now you take a frog and you put him into a pot of cold water and turn the heat up on it and let that water come to a boil.
Speaker 1:That frog won't ever jump out really sit there and die what, and it's the same concept that we get caught up in in life. We get caught into that same. We don't realize what's going on around us. Yeah, and because we get so unfocused with our reality that we create this environment. That's safe. Now, that frog in his environment, that's nice warm water until it gets to a boil and then he don't live much longer. But he won't jump out because he's caught up in the mix and it's, and it's, it's.
Speaker 1:That's true analogy. That's actually a scientific, scientifically proven and the the point of it, that is, is when you get caught up in that daily grind and you're just sitting in that cold water as it heats up, you don't even realize it it'll totally engulf you and then next thing you know you're dead and you have regrets like that. That frog probably regretted not jumping out right.
Speaker 2:so you're on your deathbed and you have regrets. I wish I had, I wished, I had, I wish, I had, I wished, I had, I wish I had.
Speaker 1:Well, you hear everybody say I got a bucket list. How many people actually do their bucket list? Right, go do your bucket list, yeah.
Speaker 2:Somebody, a country guy, wrote the song Live Life Like I'm Dying.
Speaker 1:Live like I was dying, that's a very good motto. Yeah, totally.
Speaker 2:It's definitely something I bring into my circle now is stay in the now, I mean the reality is, we're all dying humans.
Speaker 1:We're all dying right. Sometimes you might as well live now yeah and have a good time yeah, that's right, just I'm not gonna die for a long time. I still have a lot of stuff to get done, so you never get it done nope, and I don't plan on ever getting it done, but I will get a bunch more done right anyway.
Speaker 1:So you know, going back to the relationship and not having the regrets is you know? Because we talked about the relationships, the two weeks of the spiritual sex, and then we talked about appreciation and now we're talking about regret yeah and you're not having regrets. And when you have a bond with somebody else and you take for granted those things that they do, you will regret it. And what was that? Look for.
Speaker 2:You have a bond with somebody else like super glue.
Speaker 1:Well, sometimes, yeah, I'm rubber, you're glue. Well, sometimes, yeah, I'm rubber, you're glue. I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 2:She's loco in the cabeza. Oh, we know some Spanish.
Speaker 1:Living life without regrets is the new challenge.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's the challenge of the week you know, you know, change some habits. Yes, make yourself aware, ask the question. That would be the first thing, because that's, that's basically what happened. So I was watching this series and the grandfather passes away.
Speaker 1:Is that the one you've been watching?
Speaker 2:Yes, Good grief, it's so drama-filled.
Speaker 1:She's up until like 3.30 in the morning watching it.
Speaker 2:I don't normally watch all this trauma, drama, nonsense, but for some reason I was drawn to this series.
Speaker 2:It's a seasonal thing, it's got like three seasons and I binge watched it and because I got snickered in I know I got snickered in but you know, everything has reason and what came out of it was oh my gosh, if this man that I loved weren't here anymore, would I have any regrets? And on the flip side of that coin, if I found out that I wasn't going to be here in you know days or weeks, do I have any regrets and do I have anything that I want to get done?
Speaker 1:Right yeah.
Speaker 2:And so that would be. The first step is stop and ask yourself that question on both sides of the coin and see where it takes you if you're, you know, in a curious mindset of having something to play with or whatever, or curious about what it will bring up for you, because hopefully someday you get to a point where clearing beliefs and changing habits becomes fun, yeah, and interesting, kind of like untangling a pattern or solving a mystery.
Speaker 1:Yes, Anyway, guys, hey, so yes, on October 3rd we are starting our Power of Thought School.
Speaker 2:I feel like you do too much advertising or a workshop.
Speaker 1:Well, it's about time to wrap up.
Speaker 2:Oh.
Speaker 1:That was quick. It was quick. The Power of Thought Workshop at the Holistic House in Holly Hill. Yeah, come join us. Come join us. You can sign up there at Holly Hill. You can call the Holistic House and sign up for it to her over the phone and pay for it on site.
Speaker 2:Are you going to do a thing where signups are accepted at the door at a different price? It depends.
Speaker 1:We do have a limit. We can only have 40.
Speaker 2:I see.
Speaker 1:And so we have a limit. We can only have 40. I see, and so we have a limit. So if it fills up, then we won't be able to let people in, yeah, and if it fills up and we have a lot of draw, we'll do more than one day a week.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we can do it again. We can do it twice a week. We can do it on Saturday as well, if we need to, absolutely.
Speaker 1:But anyway, if you pay for the whole workshop up front up there, you can do it on eventbrite and save 40 on the workshop and uh, that's pretty nice. No, eventbrite gets their little piece of it, but it is what it is and um, yeah, it'll come with the whole workbook and everything yeah, workbook got a syllabus. I got a certificate yeah and maybe some little surprises at the end for people like a dum-dum yeah, maybe a dum-dum, or maybe some merch, oh anyway.
Speaker 1:Um then, on top of that, we have the salty tarot is now open. That's the store. It's the salty tarot, my shopifycom nice, yeah, we're waiting.
Speaker 2:So the salty tarot oracle cards, which started all of this with the store and everything, they are complete, they're in printing and I want to have them in my hot hand before I put them in the store because I want to see how this company is going to print them and make sure it meets my standards.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they're actually in the store. They can pre-order them. I just put it in notes we won't release them until we see the quality.
Speaker 2:Right, I want to definitely evaluate the quality, but it is a custom handmade deck and it's going to be.
Speaker 1:It's the Black Innards. What do they call that? The Black Interior Liner card.
Speaker 2:Black Innards it. They call that the black interior liner card.
Speaker 1:Black innards yeah, it's an internal black. It's got this sheet inside the card that keeps it from being see-through. I can't remember what they call it AWD or something. They're high-end cards. But they'll be on our website. We have some merch on here. I'll show you on the thing we have the bouncer of energetic bullshit. Baby onesie, tell me that ain't a cool little onesie. But anyway, this is what the store looks like. Guys, check us out on MyShopify. We appreciate it. And then also, you know, if you get out roaming the web one day, you can check out our website. It's right here, yeah.
Speaker 1:TheMarketCentersorg and you can learn all about us and you can see our website it's right here, yeah, the MerckCentersorg and you can learn all about us and you can see our services and get links to our podcast and you can contact us via the web and all kind of our Our blogs on there.
Speaker 2:Our blogs on there. The books are on there, right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the books are on here.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Everything is on here that you want or need. Uh-oh, everything is on here that you want or need. Uh oh, the conversation about sex is getting started. That's our, that's one of our blogs, and it also tells you our history. Anyway, guys, hey, don't forget to look us up on social media. We're on Facebook, instagram, tiktok and Twitter that's right and soon to be on my blog spot.
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Speaker 2:Very good, anyway, lots of cool stuff.
Speaker 1:We got a lot of stuff going on, guys, and don't mean to plug so long, but we have a lot of things that are we're working on. Uh, hey, don't forget to like, follow, share and tell your friends about us. Man, hey, you know, I mean put it out there. You know this. This is how we support. This is by people following and sharing us and downloading the podcast. Yeah, for sure, and uh, don't forget to ring that bell.
Speaker 2:Love ya We'll see you next time.
